You lose your friend....

You lose a friend when he becomes your lover and you lose your lover when he becomes your husband. This statement might be purely true based on my hazy reasoning and bears no scientific proof or valid statistics to support it. Like they say many great ideas are born in the bathroom and hence I claim that this great idea occurred to me when I was taking a shower and thinking about the coming Sunday...Friendship Day!

Listen to my justification: When we initially start our journey together we embark as friends(well,I ain't saying anything about those people who see each other on the night of their marriage;have heard of such cases too). We trust that person and he becomes our close confidante. The relation clicks and before we realize it has changed the route and reached the station called LOVE.I don't want to argue that some people believe there can never be a clean friendship between a man and a woman and I don't mean the same here, I'm just taking this path to drive home my point of reference.

Being lovers is a different journey and trust me the friendship that we thought has deepened with that new relationship actually has stomped hard on the previous relationship. Jealousy creeps in. The urge to possess creeps in. The platonic relationship calls in sick. Gone are the days of being there for each other for it changes to wanting each other.

Soon, the speed with which the wind drives the other relationship propels the duo to the next station-marriage! With this station it is as if one has reached the final destination. Complacency sits flat on the heart. Where previously concern for small details prevailed; now 'it's no big deal' feeling settles.

So, don't you think you lose the friend in him ultimately?

Whether you lose a friend when SHE becomes your lover or do you lose the lover when SHE becomes your wife, that's a new food for thought and I need to jump in the shower to get my answers to that.